Of course tracing root cause led to me being the culprit

John you can only be the culprit in something you deliberately do.

As parents we THINK we are doing our best, and if and when we find it's not the best, we change.

I'm sure you did a good job, and now that you are passing on your knowledge to your grandchildren, that is wonderful.

My belief is that the kids who exhibit reactions are the lucky ones, because then we can take steps to counter whatever is happening.

For those who coast along, NOT reacting, down the track might be a tsunami.

Thanks for your thoughts, John. :)