My BIL was diagnosed in his 70s. As a professor of mathematics, he had travelled the world, so I saw no real need for the assessment.

There are times when I think the whole family could to one extent or another, be on the spectrum.

Michelle this is very beautiful writing. You may feel you have missed large parts of your daughter's childhood, but I'd say you have given her more support than many children enjoy.

Enjoy each other. Relish the good times.