My BIL, a maths professor and very successful academic who toured the world delivering papers (and not of the news variety) , was diagnosed after retirement. I see traits in the family. I think we are all somewhere on that spectrum. It doesn't always translate into a diagnosis.

All the world is queer save thee and me...

I remember a few kids who slipped through the cracks, and they were the ones who tended to be bullied. I am very intolerant of bullies. But it happens Susie. :)