I wonder Katie, how could breast milk donated freely dredge up negativity? I remember looking after friend's baby, with my own. This baby was hungry and so distressed. I had no idea what to do, and the mother was already really late. In the end I thought about how I would feel if the situation were reversed. I took the risk and fed her. Her mother was a nurse, by the way. It was the first thing I told her when she arrived at my house, baby fed, and asleep. She was so relieved.