I always summarise parenting as doing my best to ensure each of my children can be the best version of themselves they can (and want to) be.

I like that, Patrick.

In this case we had three very capable boys, the one in the middle capable in other ways.

What amazed me is that none of them ever talked about what had happened. I was the one who brought up the seeming unfairness.

I was one of seven and we all went in different directions, but the opportunities were there.