As always, Deb, such a great read.
My brother died suddenly, some years ago, and my sister, brother and I flew over for the funeral. That was deferred as there had to be an autopsy because of his age.
We decided we'd do a tour of Scotland while we waited, but first visited our local cemetery. We were totally amazed by the number of people, many from the same families, who had all gone home.
Maybe it was due to some genetic issues. We will ever know, but it was an informative way to spend a couple of hours.